Comments on: Stephen Hopson Interview with Albert Foong of Urban Monk – Part II of II http://www.adversityuniversityblog.com/2007/12/11/interview-with-albert-foong-of-urban-monk-part-ii-of-ii/ Taking Mind, Body and Spirit to the Next Level Sat, 23 Jul 2011 23:01:21 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.1 By: Patricia - Spiritual Journey Of A Lightworker http://www.adversityuniversityblog.com/2007/12/11/interview-with-albert-foong-of-urban-monk-part-ii-of-ii/comment-page-1/#comment-1554 Patricia - Spiritual Journey Of A Lightworker Fri, 14 Dec 2007 17:15:25 +0000 http://www.adversityuniversityblog.com/2007/12/11/interview-with-albert-foong-of-urban-monk-part-ii-of-ii/#comment-1554 Michelle, be careful with labeling your daughter's behavior that it doesn't effect her negatively like Albert's childhood labeling by his parents effected him. I know that I still have issues with some of my own childhood labels as well. I also know that Albert's wonderful articles are helping me to address and heal some of my own issues. Adversity University and Stephen are helping also. Michelle, be careful with labeling your daughter’s behavior that it doesn’t effect her negatively like Albert’s childhood labeling by his parents effected him. I know that I still have issues with some of my own childhood labels as well. I also know that Albert’s wonderful articles are helping me to address and heal some of my own issues. Adversity University and Stephen are helping also.

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I love how this interview has generated so many wonderful thought provoking, value-added comments! It delights me to no end to see this happening at Adversity University.

A quick update to everyone else: I found a plug-in for creating a poll for you to vote on a new name for the interview series but it requires some tampering with the template – something I’d rather not do because I’m no techie. So bear with me while I figure out a way to get a poll up and running – I’m still learning here!

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Nice interview Stephen, I’m looking forward to more interviews!

]]> By: Corinne Edwards http://www.adversityuniversityblog.com/2007/12/11/interview-with-albert-foong-of-urban-monk-part-ii-of-ii/comment-page-1/#comment-1495 Corinne Edwards Thu, 13 Dec 2007 20:59:04 +0000 http://www.adversityuniversityblog.com/2007/12/11/interview-with-albert-foong-of-urban-monk-part-ii-of-ii/#comment-1495 Albert said - "But the shame was still there, and recently I’ve been seeing those memories come to the front. By facing and healing them, I am taking charge of my life and situation so much more easily, without having to tell myself to." Somehow, Albert, I knew who I was talking to when I wrote that comment. Labeling the feelings immediately has been the key for me. Albert said -

“But the shame was still there, and recently I’ve been seeing those memories come to the front. By facing and healing them, I am taking charge of my life and situation so much more easily, without having to tell myself to.”

Somehow, Albert, I knew who I was talking to when I wrote that comment.

Labeling the feelings immediately has been the key for me.

]]> By: Albert | UrbanMonk.Net http://www.adversityuniversityblog.com/2007/12/11/interview-with-albert-foong-of-urban-monk-part-ii-of-ii/comment-page-1/#comment-1482 Albert | UrbanMonk.Net Thu, 13 Dec 2007 09:33:35 +0000 http://www.adversityuniversityblog.com/2007/12/11/interview-with-albert-foong-of-urban-monk-part-ii-of-ii/#comment-1482 Thank you very much for your support everyone! Corinne, that is very deep insight. Shame is truly one of the deepest things I have uncovered as well. As you might expect, many of them started from childhood and just took over my life all the way till now. The good news is, by facing the wounds, knowing what they are (as you said), your whole life can begin to change right now. I was often told as a child I was weak and unable to take care of myself, I was too naive, would get eaten alive in the made world, etc etc. When I first began personal development, I simply forced myself to go out and do things, live life. But the shame was still there, and recently I've been seeing those memories come to the front. By facing and healing them, I am taking charge of my life and situation so much more easily, without having to tell myself to. I hope that is what you are pointing to. Thanks for the support, once again. Cheers! Thank you very much for your support everyone! Corinne, that is very deep insight. Shame is truly one of the deepest things I have uncovered as well. As you might expect, many of them started from childhood and just took over my life all the way till now.

The good news is, by facing the wounds, knowing what they are (as you said), your whole life can begin to change right now.

I was often told as a child I was weak and unable to take care of myself, I was too naive, would get eaten alive in the made world, etc etc.

When I first began personal development, I simply forced myself to go out and do things, live life. But the shame was still there, and recently I’ve been seeing those memories come to the front. By facing and healing them, I am taking charge of my life and situation so much more easily, without having to tell myself to.

I hope that is what you are pointing to. Thanks for the support, once again.

Cheers!

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Well, I’m very happy to serve as the matchmaker in this situation!

Albert will sure be happy to know he has a new subscriber to his blog as a result of the two interviews here at Adversity University! :)

]]> By: Karen Putz http://www.adversityuniversityblog.com/2007/12/11/interview-with-albert-foong-of-urban-monk-part-ii-of-ii/comment-page-1/#comment-1463 Karen Putz Wed, 12 Dec 2007 13:40:35 +0000 http://www.adversityuniversityblog.com/2007/12/11/interview-with-albert-foong-of-urban-monk-part-ii-of-ii/#comment-1463 Very nice interview-- I enjoyed it a lot. I'll be visiting Urban Monk's blog more as a result! Very nice interview– I enjoyed it a lot. I’ll be visiting Urban Monk’s blog more as a result!

]]> By: Stephen Hopson http://www.adversityuniversityblog.com/2007/12/11/interview-with-albert-foong-of-urban-monk-part-ii-of-ii/comment-page-1/#comment-1462 Stephen Hopson Wed, 12 Dec 2007 12:19:57 +0000 http://www.adversityuniversityblog.com/2007/12/11/interview-with-albert-foong-of-urban-monk-part-ii-of-ii/#comment-1462 @Corinne: Yes, labeling is one of the tools we human beings use to identify and put a name to something that may be reappearing from time to time. It's a survival tool b/c if we couldn't label something, we'd feel out of control, with nothing to grab onto. @Patricia: I also enjoyed doing the interview, very much. Have you come up with an idea for a new name for this interview series yet? If not, go back to the gratitude theme post #6 and throw in some names as soon as you can so I can include you in the name contest. :) @Corinne: Yes, labeling is one of the tools we human beings use to identify and put a name to something that may be reappearing from time to time. It’s a survival tool b/c if we couldn’t label something, we’d feel out of control, with nothing to grab onto.

@Patricia: I also enjoyed doing the interview, very much. Have you come up with an idea for a new name for this interview series yet? If not, go back to the gratitude theme post #6 and throw in some names as soon as you can so I can include you in the name contest. :)

]]> By: Patricia - Spiritual Journey Of A Lightworker http://www.adversityuniversityblog.com/2007/12/11/interview-with-albert-foong-of-urban-monk-part-ii-of-ii/comment-page-1/#comment-1456 Patricia - Spiritual Journey Of A Lightworker Wed, 12 Dec 2007 05:09:31 +0000 http://www.adversityuniversityblog.com/2007/12/11/interview-with-albert-foong-of-urban-monk-part-ii-of-ii/#comment-1456 Thanks to both of you guys for the very informative interview. I am enjoying getting to know both of you better. Thanks to both of you guys for the very informative interview. I am enjoying getting to know both of you better.

]]> By: Corinne Edwards http://www.adversityuniversityblog.com/2007/12/11/interview-with-albert-foong-of-urban-monk-part-ii-of-ii/comment-page-1/#comment-1455 Corinne Edwards Wed, 12 Dec 2007 04:00:32 +0000 http://www.adversityuniversityblog.com/2007/12/11/interview-with-albert-foong-of-urban-monk-part-ii-of-ii/#comment-1455 This is an outstanding interview with a unique person. What I have found in my own life, after torturous exploration, is that there is an underlying current that is causing all the distress. The way to deal with it is LABELING it. So, when it comes up, you can say, "Oh yeah. There it is again!" My experience in digging deeper and deeper into all the uncomfortable feelings of the dark night of the soul, is one thing. It is SHAME. Who knows where it comes from? It overrides guilt, low self esteem. It is the core from which all other feelings come. Once you identify the demon, it loses power. But you must name it first. It is the first step to claiming your own identity. It will expose "the face before you were born," as the Buddhists say. That is our original face. Urban Monk will understand and explain it further. I am handing it over to him to continue this exploration. This is an outstanding interview with a unique person.

What I have found in my own life, after torturous exploration, is that there is an underlying current that is causing all the distress.

The way to deal with it is LABELING it. So, when it comes up, you can say, “Oh yeah. There it is again!”

My experience in digging deeper and deeper into all the uncomfortable feelings of the dark night of the soul, is one thing.

It is SHAME. Who knows where it comes from? It overrides guilt, low self esteem. It is the core from which all other feelings come.

Once you identify the demon, it loses power. But you must name it first. It is the first step to claiming your own identity. It will expose “the face before you were born,” as the Buddhists say.

That is our original face. Urban Monk will understand and explain it further. I am handing it over to him to continue this exploration.

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