One of the most popular articles I’ve ever written was ”How to Deal with Difficult People.” Apparently it struck a nerve out there. In a moment, you’ll understand why.
In an effort to spread my message about this subject, I submitted the above mentioned article along with another one called “The Importance of Surrounding Yourself with the Right People” to EzineArticles.com, a popular source of free self-help articles. Apparently, I hit a nerve out there because traffic statistics for both Adversity University and EzineArticles reported that these two articles ranked high on the list of the most frequently read articles.
There are no shortage of those who masquerade as energy vampires sucking the life out of others. I’ve definitely had my share of them. They also love to play the lead role of “dream stealers,” making them downright dangerous to have around.
Further research led me to a very interesting blog post by Catherine Pratt of Live with Confidence entitled “How to Deal with Negative People.” Catherine does a fabulous job outlining 10 ways of dealing with negative people and how to identify them. Her article confirms that negative people are everywhere and are prone to causing us unecessary adversity, if we let them.
Food for thought: Can you identify the energy vampires in your life? If so, what will you do about them?
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4:00 pm on March 16th, 2011 1
Hi Stephan
In her blog entry How to Deal with Negative People Catherine Pratt wrote about Dr. Len and gave a link to Joe Vitale’s interview with him.
This is from that interview:
Dr. Len (Dr. Ihaleakala Hew Len) explained that total responsibility for your life means that everything in your life – simply because it is in your life–is your responsibility. In a literal sense the entire world is your creation…if you take complete responsibility for your life, then everything you see, hear, taste, touch, or in any way experience is your responsibility because it is in your life. This means that terrorist activity, the president, the economy–anything you experience and don’t like–is up for you to heal. They don’t exist, in a manner of speaking, except as projections from inside you. The problem isn’t with them, it’s with you, and to change them, you have to change you. I know this is tough to grasp, let alone accept or actually live. Blame is far easier than total responsibility…If you want to improve your life, you have to heal your life. If you want to cure anyone–even a mentally ill criminal–you do it by healing you.
I asked Dr. Len how he went about healing himself. What was he doing, exactly, when he looked at those patients’ files?
“I just kept saying, ‘I’m sorry’ and ‘I love you’ over and over again,” he explained.
That’s it?
That’s it.
Turns out that loving yourself is the greatest way to improve yourself, and as you improve yourself, your improve your world
Is it not that amazing thought process? Very powerful.
Koray